Social Encounters with Fellow Bisexuals
May 27, 2012 § Leave a comment
Being new and fresh to this whole blogging thing I feel like I’ve got a great many little topics muse over and write about.
But where do you start, the best one? The earliest idea? The most recent? To be honest it was a bit stressful. Until, while doing a little wordpress perusing I came across this post, Some Lonely Thoughts on Culture from a Rambling Writer.
I realized I didn’t need to start big, I needed to start bi.
I definitely think there is an issue in our societies of bisexual erasure… duh. We very easily camouflage our self in our partners gender once things are well and comfy with them. But I don’t think its because we lack a culture, I think its because we are open to many “cultures” and the more we are involved in them the more we have a tendency to go local. I guess we could be called the anthropologists of sexual orientation. Isn’t signing on to the bisexual identity wagon a bit like saying you’d like to stay a little impartial to many of the sexual identity circles?
I have a recent fond memory of going out with one of my good friends and happening upon another cute little queer girl. To be honest it was less happening upon and more the fact that this girl sought my friend out as the gayest looking on in the climbing gym… which at a climbing gym is saying something.
Suffice to say it ended up us all going out for a beer afterwards, which quickly turned into a few more and maybe a couple pitchers, with a finally a table full of tipsy bi girls joking about their lives, and how this kind of concentration of bisexuals hardly ever happens.
BUT then it happened again to me this morning at work. I’m joking with two of my regulars, serving them coffee and soon we’re joking about the disasters we date in both men and women.
It’s impossible to disassociate bisexuals with any sort of culture we’re a group of people with something pretty major in common. We just don’t really have a mecca for it. Being open to an assortment of relationships, experiences and sexual partners gives bisexuals a sneaky in with a large portion of the world’s sexual orientations. All the people I date are open to the idea of fluidity in sexuality but I think I’d feel pretty limited at a bi bar. For now I am quite comfortable to hold onto my hilarious and fond memories of discovering myself at a table full of bisexuals in the middle of everything else. I don’t really think we need to organize bi annual meetings or anything.